I was sitting at a coffee shop in Denver one morning with a dear
friend of our family. "V" became part of us during my son's college
years, and quickly became an “adopted” (in my heart anyway), along with other
college/young adults I have been privileged to know and love. Each, being
so wonderfully endowed with gifts and personality to accomplish great goals in
life, have brought joy as I often have had the privilege to dig into their
thoughts over the years, and then watch their lives unfold. This time, the
tables were turned on me. “V” asked the question…
“So, Mama C. Tell me about this life coaching. What
brought you to this place? “
He caught me off guard. It was good for me to ponder how to articulate an answer to that
question. Initially, I had dismissed the thought I would be able to do
such a thing well, reflective of my lack of confidence. But, through
encouragement and excitement related by others, I started classes. As I
studied, I became energized. It was what I loved to do. When I
questioned my abilities, I became intimidated and unsure. Though many
“adopteds", friends, family and even casual acquaintances were verbally
thrilled and encouraging, it was hard to step out. In the wake of
procrastination and doubt came the realization that I needed to heed my own
exhortation, that we each have been given abilities and gifts, and the tools to
use them well.
After a time of reflecting inwardly, I finally answered. “It
is because we all need someone to come along side of us to accomplish goals.
I finally concluded I needed to use my abilities in a more expanded
manner and to pursue the training to do so. I had to actively believe I
have everything I need to accomplish the challenges in going forward.
Besides, the reward is great. In guiding others and watching them
flourish there is deep joy. I want to walk with people in hard paths to
their great joy."
Then I gave "V" what I call my "credibility
listing." The joy present in the "trenches" of my
unpredictable life, is evidence of choices in my living and faith, giving
substance to my coaching. I often say when speaking to women, “I would
have been just another casualty alongside the road of life, except that I knew
One who made my path sure.”
In the days that follow, I will open windows into those rooms of
my life that I did not want
built, nor did I feel I could manage. Survival was a hope.
But there is more than survival in facing real life. “Life can be sure”. I am
convinced that the Giver of gifts also provides the tools needed to apply them,
even when roadblocks appear...and that I am evidence.
Yep, “V”…. I am doing this thing called, “life coaching”.
Thanks for asking.
